About DesireWork.

The Heart of the Work

Most of us move through life following scripts — family expectations, cultural programming, or survival patterns. Along the way, our true desires get buried. DesireWork exists to create a space where you can uncover what you really want, without judgment, shame, or pressure to conform.

What Desire Work Is (and Isn’t)

This is not therapy. DesireWork is a coaching process informed by Internal Family Systems, shadow work, power dynamics, kink-aware consent frameworks, and a deep respect for neurodivergence. It’s about uncovering and integrating your desires — especially the ones you’ve been told are unreasonable, taboo, or “too much.” While therapy often focuses on healing the past, DesireWork focuses on what you want now, and how those wants can become the foundation for your freedom and wholeness.

My Approach

I believe that desire is the root of freedom. When you clarify what you truly want, you gain access to a new kind of motivation, aliveness, and authenticity. My role is not to hand you answers but to create a container for exploration: one that pushes when needed, validates when important, and always respects your autonomy. I bring both compassion and challenge — because growth happens when we’re willing to face the truths we’ve avoided.

Why This Matters

So many people live lives built on “shoulds” instead of wants. DesireWork is for those who sense something missing — a tug-of-war between their inner desires and the roles or beliefs they’ve inherited. If that’s you, this work offers a path to clarity, empowerment, and self-trust. The goal is not to fit you into someone else’s definition of success, but to help you uncover what freedom, wholeness, and authenticity mean for you.

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 FAQs

  • Utterly private. Your inventory belongs to you alone. Nothing is shared, sold, or exposed. In sessions, you decide what to reveal. Everything you bring is held in confidence, with the same care you give to your most vulnerable truths.

  • Ask yourself if there’s always been something gnawing at the edges of your life—a whisper you’ve pushed aside, an ache beneath the identity you thought you wanted. DesireWork calls to those who are ready to risk shedding old skins and seeing who they truly are. It takes strength to take responsibility for your desires and your power. Not everyone is ready for that. If you are, you’ll know—the thought of surrendering to that longing will be exhilerating and intoxicating.

  • Absolutely not. DesireWork is not therapy, nor is it a substitute for it. Therapy helps you heal what has been broken with trained professionals. DesireWork helps you claim what has always been burning inside you. It is a companion to therapy, coaching, or spiritual practice—but its heart is different: this is the work of desire, power, and integration.

  • DesireWork has many influences. The primary sources are archetypal psychology and the wheel of consent, as well as sources from teachers of trauma, embodiment, and sexuality. Dr. Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Dossie Eaton, Dr. Sharon Blackie, Dr. Robin Wall Kimmerer, Dr. Emily Nagoski, Dr. Carolyn Elliott, Sheryl Paul, Dr. Richard C. Schwartz, Dr. Cordelia Fine, and Rachel Rodgers are some of the creator’s favorites, amoung countless others. These threads are woven into something new—an original framework where desire and power can finally speak to one another.

  • DesireWork was born at the crossroads of many worlds. It carries the language of behavioral therapy rooms and the lived wisdom of sessions within the neurodivergent and disability community, where communication is as much about power, presence, and silence as it is about words. It’s shaped by systems-thinking drawn from computer science, biological foundations of animal science and our evolutionary origins, and the cultural pull of Indigenous and Scots-Irish heritage and spirituality. It also carries the creator’s living imprint of neurodivergence, queerness, and kink—the spaces where power and desire are both complicated and alive.

    This is a practice forged through many identities, inheritances, and cultures. DesireWork is an offering that honors the complexity of being human while creating a path back to the raw, undeniable truth of who you are.

  • DesireWork was created in North America, from a white, indigenous, mixed-heritage, queer, neurodivergent body and mind, with all the privileges and blind spots that come from growing up middle-class and now living with professional, educated income. It carries the leanings of someone politically progressive, suspicious of rigid dogma, agnostic, and shaped by Western academic frameworks. It carries a history of childhood abuse—shaping both a deep vigilance and an unrelenting hunger for truth and healing. It reflects the gaze of someone in mid-adulthood, with the hindsight of survival but not yet the wisdom of elderhood. You are encouraged to demand these biases of any advice, community, or content you engage with.

    These biases do not diminish the work—they mark it honestly. DesireWork is not free from context; it is an offering shaped by identity, culture, privilege, and wound. It invites you to bring your own context, your own biases, and let the conversation between them become part of the work.

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